Transformational Parenting Starts With You!

Transformational parenting starts with you, but not in the way you might think. It does not involve second-guessing your child's every need, martyring yourself at the altar of his/her wishes, always saying the right thing, or never making mistakes. It starts with taking care of yourself by making yourself a priority in your own life! Why is this crucial? By making it clear that your needs do matter, you . . .

1. have more energy and enthusiasm for the important tasks involved in parenting.


2. teach your child that he/she is not the center of the universe.


3. prepare him/her for the real world.


4. model self-respect to your son/daughter.


5. raise a child who does not have a sense of entitlement.


6. increase your child's frustration toleration.


7. develop your child's ability to delay gratification.


8. encourage resourcefulness.

So stop thinking you are being selfish when you want some "me" time! Go ahead and indulge yourself - for the sake of your child!

Visit Pampering Indulgences for some great ways to take a "time out" for yourself.

Copyright © 2008 by Holly A. Cox, L.C.P.C., C.D.C.®