BigIQKids! - After watching, click the video and visit the site!

Saturday, October 25, 2008

Holly's Picks - Great Shopping Ideas!

Are you looking for great products at affordable prices? Do you want to get your holiday shopping done without ever leaving your home? Check out these great offers!



Favor Affair - Party Favors For Every Occasion
Save up to 85% on brand name bed, bath & decor. Shop now!
Save 20% on Inspirational Books All Day, Every Day!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Moms - We Need to Schedule Appointments with Ourselves!

When the demands on our time seem relentless and eternal, and we feel like the life we are living is not our own, it becomes increasingly difficult to put our needs anywhere near the top of our "to do" lists. We are too busy taking care of everyone else, while we barely find time to eat meals sitting down or head to the bathroom when nature calls. As time passes, we begin to wonder, "Whose life is this anyway?"

As women, many of us are notorious for taking care of others at our own expense.  Eventually, though, we start feeling resentful, unappreciated, and used up. When concerned friends and relatives tell us we need to make time for ourselves, we quickly respond with "I DON'T HAVE THE TIME!" Of course, we are right. The empty time slots in our calendars fill up rapidly, often weeks in advance. So what can exhausted women do?  The answer is simple. We must first decide that OUR NEEDS MATTER!  We also need to recognize that we are not doing a service to our children when we teach them that everyone else's needs are more important than our own.  What does that say to them about their own roles as males and females growing into adults?  How does that teach them to be considerate of the needs of others? 

We can schedule appointments with ourselves in our calendar that we honor as much as we do all the other demands on our time. What might we do during our scheduled appointments? Try the following and/or come up with some of your own ideas. The possibilities are endless.

*take a nap
*meditate
*go for a walk
*play with a puppy/kitten
*turn on the radio and sing or dance
*exercise
*get a manicure or pedicure
*go shopping
*swim
*read a book
*journal
*draw
*play a game
*get a makeover
*write a letter
*talk to a friend
*daydream
*take a bubble bath
*go wine tasting
Copyright © 2016 by Holly A. Cox, L.C.P.C., C.D.C.®, 
Rosemond Certified Leadership Parenting Coach

Monday, October 20, 2008

I'm Going to be a Grandma!

I can't even begin to describe the joy I feel at the thought of one of my "babies" having a baby! Ryan and Heather recently surprised our family with the great news. Heather is due on April 20th, and I'm counting the days. I can close my eyes and picture Ryan in his "Diaper Dolphin" class with his childhood friend, Sarah. Ironically, he and Heather just stood up in Sarah's wedding this past weekend. It's just another reminder of how quicky time passes and the importance of savoring each and every wonderful moment.

Congratulations Ryan and Heather! You'll be absolutely amazing parents!

Saturday, October 11, 2008

The Secret to Raising Readers by Emma Walton Hamilton

For the last fifty years, reading has suffered a precipitous decline. Blame has been widely assigned to electronic entertainment, but there is perhaps a subtler, more subversive force undermining the reading landscape: the association of reading with "chore".

Ideally, our earliest reading experiences are warm and fuzzy. We snuggle up with loved ones while listening to enchanted tales... Reading = JOY. Then, we go to school. Little by little, our parents stop reading to us, feeling it more important to promote our independent reading skills. Perhaps it's the struggle to learn to read, perhaps it's the hours spent reading dry material designed to educate rather than inspire, perhaps it's simply the responsibility of having to read - whatever the case, those early underlying connections between reading and pleasure now begin to be replaced by feelings of pressure, responsibility, frustration, even boredom.

To build, restore or maintain a love of reading, we must continually reinforce the subliminal association between books and pleasure. We must look for ways to ignite - and then preserve - an internal fire, one that makes kids want to read rather than feeling obliged to do so.

But how to begin, when electronic entertainment provides such seductive, addictive competition? The answer lies in making active choices to support the JOY of reading on a daily basis.

Here are just a few ways:

- Surround kids with, and expose them to, great books. Keep them everywhere - in the bedroom, bathroom, kitchen, living room, even in the car.

- Cuddle up and read aloud together as early and as often as possible - and continue to do so, even as kids get older.

- Provide a warm and inviting reading atmosphere, minimizing distractions like background noise or harsh lighting.

- Make regular trips to the library or bookstore to explore the tactile, sensual pleasures that books provide.

- Give books as gifts and encourage others to do the same.

- Provide books that cater to individual passions - be it baseball or ballet, trucks or horses, great fiction and non-fiction abounds in all categories.

- Don't force completion of a book that isn't resonating - there are too many great books out there that will. Help kids find the ones that speak to them.

- Don't use book as weapons ("If you don't ___ , then no reading tonight.")

- Allow your child's personality and learning style to influence reading choices. Aural learners may like audio books, visual ones may appreciate graphic novels. Comic books, magazines, how-to books - it's all reading, and if it's done with genuine interest and passion, its all good.

- Take note of what your child does respond to with respect to reading material, and endeavor to provide more of the same - whether it's books by the same author, in the same genre or about a similar subject. Ask your local librarian or bookseller for guidance.

- Look for ways to make practical connections with books. Cook recipes, listen to music, see a film or play, explore art, make crafts etc. inspired by books and stories.

In the words of author/educator Daniel Pennac, "A child has no great wish to perfect himself in the use of an instrument of torture, but make it a means to his pleasure, and soon you will not be able to keep him from it!"

Emma Walton Hamilton is a best-selling children's book author, editor and arts educator. Her latest book is "Raising Bookworms: Getting Kids Reading for Pleasure and Empowerment." http://www.raisingbookworms.com